by Harry Karydes | Mar 31, 2025 | Leadership
Key Highlights
- Teams with growth mindsets are 47% more likely to innovate—start with just 10 minutes of daily mindset work
- Strategic rest periods increase productivity—Microsoft Japan saw a 40% boost with their 4-day workweek trial
- The “1-3-5 Framework” for team communications reduces meeting times by 34% while improving outcomes
Remember when you first stepped into your leadership role? That mix of excitement and “what have I gotten myself into?” We’ve all been there. The good news? Unlocking your potential—and that of your team—doesn’t require superhuman abilities or 80-hour work weeks. Let’s break down some surprisingly simple approaches that yield powerful results.
Start With Your Mindset
Your mindset shapes everything else. According to research from Stanford University, professionals with a growth mindset are 47% more likely to say their colleagues are empowered to innovate compared to those with fixed mindsets.
The Easy Win: Set aside just 10 minutes each morning for mindset work. Try the “3-2-1 Method”:
- 3 minutes of meditation (the Headspace app has specific leadership exercises)
- 2 minutes journaling about one challenge you’re facing
- 1 minute visualizing successful outcomes
Carol Dweck’s work tells us that simply saying “yet” when facing challenges (“I haven’t figured out how to motivate Alex… yet”) reinforces neural pathways that embrace growth rather than limitation.
Build Better Systems, Not Willpower
Your environment and systems determine your success far more than willpower alone. James Clear, author of “Atomic Habits,” has found that people who create environments conducive to their goals are up to 2-3x more likely to succeed.
“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.” — James Clear
The Easy Win: Implement “habit stacking” with your team—attach new desired behaviors to existing habits. For example:
“After our Monday morning check-in (existing habit), we will each share one experiment from the previous week (new habit).”
According to Harvard Business Review, teams that systematically review and learn from both successes and failures see a 20-30% improvement in performance over teams that don’t.
Leverage Your Rest (Yes, Really)
Microsoft Japan tested a 4-day workweek and saw a 40% boost in productivity. Why? High performers understand that strategic rest is a competitive advantage.
The Easy Win: Try “pulse and pause” leadership. Schedule 52-minute focused work blocks followed by 17-minute recovery periods. During those 17 minutes, encourage genuine breaks—walking outside, light stretching, or brief social connections. Research shows this specific timing optimizes both focus and recovery.
Communication That Actually Works
In a survey by Interact, 69% of managers reported being uncomfortable communicating with their employees, and 37% said they’re uncomfortable giving direct feedback.
The Easy Win: Implement the “1-3-5 Framework” for all team communications:
- 1 clear objective (what’s the one thing we need to accomplish?)
- 3 key points only (force prioritization)
- 5 minutes of questions at the end (ensure understanding)
This approach has been shown to reduce meeting times by 34% while improving action-item completion rates.
Resource Roundup: Tools for Unlocking Potential
Mindset Tools:
Systems & Habits:
- Notion for team process documentation (various tiers available)
- “Atomic Habits” implementation workbook by James Clear
- ClickUp for habit/goal tracking and team accountability
Rest & Recovery:
- Oura Ring for sleep tracking and recovery metrics
- The Focus app for timing work/rest cycles
- “Rest” by Alex Soojung-Kim Pang (excellent book on strategic rest)
Communication Enhancement:
One Action Step for This Week
Choose just ONE of these easy wins to implement this week. Remember, progress beats perfection. Share your chosen strategy with a colleague for accountability, and note the impact by Friday.
Your team’s potential is enormous, but unlocking it shouldn’t feel like cracking a safe. Start small, stay consistent, and watch how these seemingly simple shifts create substantial change.
Whenever you are ready, there are 2 ways I can help:
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by Harry Karydes | Mar 24, 2025 | Leadership
Key Highlights
- The Stockdale Paradox: Balance unwavering faith in ultimate success with brutal honesty about current challenges
- Science-Backed Edge: Teams led with this paradoxical approach show 41% higher productivity and 37% better problem-solving
- Implementation Blueprint: Three practical strategies to build both psychological safety and resilience within your team
In today’s hypercompetitive business landscape, where 65% of employees report feeling overwhelmed by workplace challenges, the difference between teams that crumble and those that thrive often comes down to one thing: mindset.
But not just any mindset—a paradoxical one.
The Powerful Paradox You Need to Know
Admiral James Stockdale survived 7+ years as a POW in Vietnam through what author Jim Collins later dubbed “The Stockdale Paradox” in his bestseller Good to Great:
“You must maintain unwavering faith that you can and will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties, AND at the same time, have the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”
Stockdale explained that the prisoners who didn’t make it were the optimists who kept saying, “We’ll be out by Christmas,” then “We’ll be out by Easter,” setting themselves up for repeated disappointment. Meanwhile, Stockdale himself never doubted he would prevail while simultaneously acknowledging the dire circumstances.
This mental framework isn’t just applicable to extreme situations—it’s the foundation of sustainable high performance in business. The paradox teaches us that genuine resilience requires two seemingly contradictory mindsets working in tandem: unflinching hope and brutal honesty. By embracing both simultaneously, you create a psychological environment where problems don’t become permanent roadblocks and opportunities aren’t just wishful thinking.
Why Most Team Leaders Get It Wrong
We’ve all worked with two types of ineffective leaders:
- The Toxic Positive Leader: “Everything’s great! We’ll figure it out!” (while ignoring glaring problems)
- The Doomsday Leader: “The competition is crushing us. The market is terrible. We’re doomed.”
Research from Harvard Business Review shows that 71% of employees feel their leaders aren’t honest about organizational challenges. Meanwhile, a McKinsey study found that teams with leaders who balance optimism with realism outperform their peers by 23%.
The magic happens in the middle—where unflinching optimism meets brutal honesty.
Implementing the Stockdale Mindset with Your Team
1. Create psychological safety for truth-telling
Amy Edmondson‘s research at Harvard shows teams perform best when they feel safe sharing uncomfortable truths. Start your next team meeting with:
“What’s one challenge we’re not addressing head-on? There are no consequences for honesty here.”
2. Balance hard conversations with vision reinforcement
After confronting difficult realities, immediately pivot to reinforcing your team’s capabilities:
“These are serious challenges. And we have exactly the right people in this room to overcome them.”
According to research in The Power of Moments by Chip and Dan Heath, these transitional moments build what they call “defining moments” that strengthen team resilience.
3. Develop systems for both reality-checking and morale-building
- Weekly Reality Check: A 15-minute dedicated session where team members anonymously submit current obstacles
- Victory Log: A shared document capturing small wins toward the larger vision
- “How Might We” Framework: Transform identified problems into opportunity questions
The Science Behind the Stockdale Paradox
Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck‘s research on “growth mindset” perfectly complements the Stockdale Paradox. Her studies show that teams embracing a growth mindset (believing challenges can be overcome through effort) demonstrate a 65% increase in problem-solving capabilities compared to teams with fixed mindsets.
Moreover, organizational psychologist Adam Grant‘s research on “psychological safety with accountability” reveals that teams perform best when they have both high psychological safety (ability to speak truth) and high standards (expectation of excellence). This combination—present in the Stockdale Paradox—produced 41% higher productivity than teams with just one or neither quality.
A 2024 meta-analysis in the Leadership Quarterly examining 87 studies found that leaders who balance “challenge” communications (confronting reality) with “support” communications (expressing confidence) consistently produce teams with:
- Higher innovation metrics
- Better employee engagement scores
- More effective execution on strategic initiatives
- Greater resilience during market disruptions
A Deeper Dive
The Stockdale Paradox taps into what psychologists call “tragic optimism”—finding meaning and possibility even in suffering. Dr. Viktor Frankl first identified this concept, and recent research shows it correlates with higher resilience scores, better problem-solving, and lower burnout rates.
Neurologically, this paradoxical thinking activates both the prefrontal cortex (responsible for logical assessment) and the limbic reward system (associated with motivation and positive expectation). A 2023 study in the Journal of Applied Psychology found that leaders who regularly practice this dual-processing approach showed a 37% increase in innovative problem-solving compared to control groups.
Further research from the University of Pennsylvania’s Positive Psychology Center reveals that teams operating under Stockdale-type leadership demonstrate:
- 42% higher retention rates during organizational challenges
- 31% better scores on complex problem-solving assessments
- 27% lower reported burnout rates after sustained high-pressure periods
Dr. Angela Duckworth‘s work on “grit” provides further evidence, showing that individuals who combine perseverance with adaptive strategy-shifting consistently outperform peers with higher IQs or technical capabilities. Her longitudinal studies found that this paradoxical mindset was the single strongest predictor of leadership success across industries.
Your Next Steps: Resources to Dive Deeper
- Read: Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin for practical leadership applications of the Stockdale mindset
- Listen: “The Knowledge Project” podcast episode #107 with Jim Collins on the Stockdale Paradox
- Practice: The “Pre-Mortem Technique” developed by psychologist Gary Klein (imagine your initiative has failed, then work backward to identify potential causes)
The Bottom Line
The most effective leaders aren’t blindly positive or hopelessly pessimistic. They’re paradoxical—combining unwavering faith in ultimate success with a ruthless commitment to facing current reality.
As Admiral Stockdale himself said: “You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality.”
What brutal facts will you and your team confront this week? And what unshakable vision will carry you through them?
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by Harry Karydes | Mar 17, 2025 | Leadership
Key Highlights
- The counterintuitive secret to leadership growth
- Three practical systems for turning team challenges into opportunities
- Research-backed strategies for building resilience in high-pressure environments
Have you ever noticed how the most challenging periods in your leadership journey often precede your biggest breakthroughs?
This isn’t coincidence—it’s principle.
The Lesson of the Arrow
I was recently reminded of Paulo Coelho’s powerful insight: “An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means that it’s going to launch you into something great.”
This metaphor perfectly captures what separates exceptional leaders from average ones. The exceptional don’t just endure setbacks—they leverage them as launching pads.
According to research from the Center for Creative Leadership, 94% of executives cite adversity as the catalyst for developing their most valuable leadership capabilities. The data reinforces what the arrow teaches us: backward tension creates forward momentum.
Turning Team Adversity into Opportunity
As you lead your team through challenges, consider these three evidence-based approaches:
1. Reframe Resistance as Preparation
When facing pushback on new initiatives, recognize this as your arrow being drawn. A study from Harvard Business Review found that projects meeting initial resistance but gaining leadership support were 40% more likely to exceed expectations than those with smooth early adoption.
Action step: At your next team meeting, try this exercise: “What’s currently pulling us backward, and what might that be preparing us to accomplish?”
2. Develop “Backward Focus” Systems
Elite archers maintain laser focus while drawing back their bow. Similarly, high-performing teams need structured reflection systems.
Try this: Implement a weekly “backward focus” session where team members identify:
- One challenge currently creating tension
- Three potential opportunities this challenge might be preparing them for
- A specific target they’re aiming toward
The McKinsey Global Institute reports that teams implementing structured reflection practices demonstrate 23% higher performance outcomes compared to those focused solely on forward momentum.
3. Build Patience Through Deliberate Practice
According to research from the American Psychological Association, patience isn’t just a virtue—it’s a skill that can be systematically developed. Leaders who practice strategic patience report 37% greater decision-making confidence under pressure.
Resource recommendation: The “Strategic Pause” framework (detailed in Adam Grant’s “Think Again“) provides an excellent system for developing leadership patience when facing complex challenges.
The Counterintuitive Secret to Growth
What separates truly transformational leaders is their ability to recognize that performance plateaus aren’t failures—they’re the necessary drawing back of the arrow before the next leap forward.
A landmark Stanford study tracking leadership development over 15 years found that leaders who interpreted setbacks as preparatory rather than punitive were 3.8x more likely to achieve exceptional long-term outcomes.
From Mindset to Methodology
The arrow principle isn’t just philosophy—it’s practical methodology. Here’s how to implement it:
- Document the Draw-Back: Keep a leadership journal tracking challenges and their subsequent breakthroughs.
- Calibrate Your Aim: Use adversity as an opportunity to refine your vision rather than abandon it.
- Trust the Process: Build systems that anticipate resistance as part of progress, not an obstacle to it.
When leading high-performing teams, remember that periods of tension and difficulty aren’t signs of failure—they’re the necessary preparation for extraordinary achievement.
The next time your leadership journey feels like it’s pulling you backward, remember the wisdom of the arrow. Focus, aim deliberately, and prepare for launch.
LEADERSHIP RESOURCE OF THE MONTH: For a deeper dive into resilience-building frameworks, check out Angela Duckworth’s “Grit Scale Assessment” for teams at gritscale.org. Our leadership community found this tool particularly valuable for identifying growth opportunities during challenging projects.
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by Harry Karydes | Mar 10, 2025 | Leadership
Key Highlights
- Teams with winner’s attitudes outperform peers by 23% on key metrics, with growth mindset being the foundation for sustainable success
- Structured reflection practices improve team performance by up to 25%, making strategic pauses as valuable as action
- Teams celebrating small wins report 34% higher engagement and 26% lower turnover, proving recognition drives results
In today’s competitive workplace, the difference between good and exceptional teams often comes down to one critical factor: attitude. According to a recent McKinsey study, teams with positive mindsets outperform their peers by 23% on key performance metrics. So how do you cultivate this winning attitude—both in yourself and your team? Let’s dive in.
1. Embrace a Growth Mindset Framework
Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck‘s research shows that individuals with a growth mindset—those who believe abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—are more likely to achieve success than those with a fixed mindset.
Put it into practice: Start team meetings with a quick “failure round” where each person shares a recent mistake and what they learned. A 2023 study from Harvard Business Review found that teams that normalized failure experienced a 41% increase in innovation output.
Resource: Dweck’s book “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” provides practical exercises for developing a growth mindset. For a quicker introduction, check out her TED Talk “The Power of Believing You Can Improve,” which has over 11 million views.
2. Implement Strategic Reflection Cycles
Winners don’t just work hard—they work smart by consistently reflecting on their process.
Put it into practice: Implement a “Friday Fifteen” where team members spend 15 minutes reflecting on three questions:
- What went well this week?
- What could have gone better?
- What will I do differently next week?
Research from the University of Texas shows that teams practicing structured reflection improve performance by up to 25% compared to teams that simply “work harder.”
Resource: The “Reflect” app (available on iOS and Android) offers guided reflection templates specifically designed for professional development.
3. Cultivate Deliberate Optimism
Optimism isn’t about ignoring challenges—it’s about approaching them with confidence and solution-oriented thinking.
Put it into practice: Institute the “1:3 Rule” in problem-solving discussions—for every challenge mentioned, require three potential solutions. This simple practice prevents complaint sessions and builds a team culture focused on possibilities rather than limitations.
According to research published in the Journal of Applied Psychology, teams trained in optimistic thinking showed 31% higher productivity levels and reported 55% less stress during high-pressure projects.
Resource: Martin Seligman’s “Learned Optimism” provides evidence-based techniques for developing this skill, with assessments to measure your progress.
4. Build Resilience Through Micro-Challenges
Resilience—the ability to bounce back from setbacks—isn’t innate; it’s built through practice.
Put it into practice: Create monthly “stretch assignments” that push team members slightly beyond their comfort zones. These controlled challenges build confidence and adaptability in a supportive environment.
A longitudinal study from the Center for Creative Leadership found that professionals who regularly tackled stretch assignments showed 37% greater career advancement over five years than their peers.
Resource: The “Resilience Factor” by Karen Reivich offers practical exercises for building this critical skill, including the popular “ABC” technique (Adversity-Beliefs-Consequences) for managing reactions to challenges.
5. Harness the Power of Team Rituals
High-performing teams don’t happen by accident—they’re cultivated through intentional habits and rituals that reinforce their identity as winners.
Put it into practice: Establish a “Victory Wall” where team accomplishments (both large and small) are visibly celebrated. According to research from Deloitte, teams that regularly celebrate incremental wins report 34% higher engagement and 26% lower turnover.
Resource: The “High-Performing Team Assessment” from the Table Group provides a structured framework for evaluating and enhancing team dynamics.
Your Next Step
Remember: a winner’s attitude isn’t about never failing—it’s about how you respond to those failures. As UCLA basketball coach John Wooden famously said, “Success is never final, failure is never fatal. It’s courage that counts.”
Which of these strategies will you implement first? Reply to this email and let us know—we’d love to hear about your journey toward building a team with a winner’s attitude.
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by Harry Karydes | Mar 3, 2025 | Leadership
When crisis hits, your team looks to you—not just for answers, but for confidence. According to a 2023 Deloitte study, 78% of employees cite leadership behavior as the most critical factor in maintaining productivity during organizational disruption. Yet only 32% of emerging leaders feel adequately prepared to guide their teams through turbulent times.
Key Highlights
- Crisis leadership is a learnable skill that combines methodical decision-making, consistent communication, and strategic prioritization
- Teams with structured recovery practices maintain peak performance 34% longer during extended crises
- Psychological safety increases team innovation by 76% during high-pressure situations, making vulnerability a strategic advantage
The good news? Crisis leadership isn’t an innate talent—it’s a skill you can develop. Here are five practical approaches to help you lead with confidence when your team needs it most.
1. Master the Pause-Reflect-Respond Cycle
In crisis, our brain’s fight-or-flight response kicks in, potentially clouding judgment. Harvard Business School researcher Amy Edmondson calls this the “crisis compression trap”—the tendency to rush decisions when under pressure.
Try this: Implement the 5-3-1 method. Take five deep breaths when crisis hits, identify three potential responses, then commit to one clear action. This micro-routine creates the cognitive space needed to respond rather than react.
“The ability to pause before responding is what separates exceptional crisis leaders from the rest,” says management expert Adam Grant. “It transforms panic into presence.”
2. Establish a Clear Communication Rhythm
During uncertainty, information gaps get filled with assumptions and anxiety. A study from the Center for Creative Leadership found that teams receiving consistent updates during crisis situations reported 42% less stress and 37% higher engagement.
Try this: Create a crisis communication blueprint with three components:
- Daily team check-ins (15 minutes, same time each day)
- Bi-weekly written updates with progress metrics
- A dedicated crisis Slack channel for real-time information sharing
The format matters less than the consistency. When team members know when and how they’ll receive information, they can focus on solutions rather than searching for answers.
3. Prioritize Ruthlessly with the Eisenhower Matrix
A McKinsey analysis of high-performing crisis teams showed they spend 70% of their energy on a carefully curated set of priorities rather than trying to address everything simultaneously.
Try this: Implement the Eisenhower Matrix (named after President Dwight D. Eisenhower) by categorizing all tasks into four quadrants:
- Important + Urgent (Do immediately)
- Important + Not Urgent (Schedule definite time)
- Not Important + Urgent (Delegate with clear instructions)
- Not Important + Not Urgent (Eliminate entirely)
During crisis, this matrix becomes even more critical. Review it with your team daily and be transparent about what falls where. According to research from the Harvard Business Review, teams that use structured prioritization methods like the Eisenhower Matrix reduce decision fatigue by 43% during high-stress periods, leaving more mental bandwidth for creative problem-solving.
4. Build Psychological Safety Through Vulnerability
Teams navigate crisis better when members feel safe sharing concerns and mistakes. Google’s Project Aristotle identified psychological safety as the most important factor in high-performing teams.
Try this: Model vulnerability by sharing your own challenges. Begin team meetings with a simple prompt: “What’s one thing you’re struggling with today, and what support do you need?” Then be the first to answer honestly.
Leadership coach Brené Brown puts it perfectly: “Vulnerability isn’t winning or losing. It’s having the courage to show up when you can’t control the outcome.”
The Edelman Trust Barometer shows that leaders who demonstrate appropriate vulnerability during crisis situations experience a 23% increase in team trust.
5. Create Recovery Rituals
High-intensity crisis periods deplete cognitive and emotional resources. Research from the University of California found that teams with structured recovery practices maintained performance 34% longer during extended crises than those without.
Try this: Implement team recovery rituals:
- No-meeting Wednesdays to provide focused work time
- End-of-week “wins and learns” sessions (30 minutes to celebrate progress and identify lessons)
- Encourage use of mental health resources (like Headspace for Work or BetterHelp’s corporate program)
Leadership author Jim Loehr notes, “Recovery isn’t a luxury for high performers—it’s a fundamental performance enhancement strategy.”
Moving Forward
Remember that your team doesn’t expect perfection during crisis—they expect presence, transparency, and direction. By implementing these five approaches, you’re not just surviving the current challenge; you’re building a resilience playbook that serves your team through whatever comes next.
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by Harry Karydes | Feb 24, 2025 | Leadership
Key Highlights
- Soft skills are the secret weapon of great leaders—they drive engagement, trust, and high performance.
- Research-backed insights: High EQ leaders outperform others by 37%, and strong communicators are 3.5x more effective.
- Actionable strategies: Use the SBI model for feedback, the 3 Cs for conflict resolution, and the Why-What-How framework for delegation.
You’ve probably heard the phrase: “People don’t leave companies, they leave managers.”
And it’s true. A Gallup study found that 50% of employees have left a job because of their boss.
But here’s the twist—most managers don’t fail because they lack technical skills. They fail because they lack soft skills—the human-centered abilities that inspire teams, build trust, and drive performance.
So, if you’re stepping into leadership (or looking to level up), mastering these seven soft skills will set you apart.
1. Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
Think of EQ as your leadership superpower. Leaders with high emotional intelligence outperform those with low EQ by 37%, according to research by TalentSmart.
What does that mean for you?
It means understanding how emotions influence behavior—both yours and your team’s. It means responding, not reacting. And it means reading the room to motivate people effectively.
Try this: At your next meeting, pay attention to nonverbal cues. If someone is disengaged, ask an open-ended question like, “What’s your take on this?” to bring them in.
Resource: Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves.
2. Communication That Inspires
Clear, concise, and compelling communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about getting your message across in a way that moves people to action.
A study by McKinsey found that leaders who communicate effectively are 3.5 times more likely to be high-performing.
Try this: The next time you give feedback, use the SBI model (Situation-Behavior-Impact). Instead of saying, “You need to be more proactive,” say:
“Yesterday, when the client asked about the delay (Situation), you didn’t have an update (Behavior), which made us look unprepared (Impact).”
Resource: Talk Like TED by Carmine Gallo (great for persuasive communication).
3. Adaptability in a Fast-Changing World
The best leaders don’t resist change—they embrace it. According to LinkedIn’s 2023 Workplace Learning Report, adaptability is the #1 most in-demand soft skill.
Try this: The next time something unexpected happens, pause before reacting. Ask yourself: “What’s the opportunity here?”
Resource: Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson (a quick read on adapting to change).
4. Conflict Resolution Without Drama
Great teams don’t avoid conflict. They navigate it productively.
The Harvard Business Review found that teams who handle conflict well are 25% more productive than those who avoid it.
Try this: When tensions rise, use “The 3 Cs”:
- Clarify the issue (What’s really going on?)
- Consider multiple perspectives (Why might they see it that way?)
- Collaborate on a solution (How can we move forward together?)
Resource: Crucial Conversations by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, & Switzler.
5. The Ability to Give (and Receive) Feedback
92% of employees say that constructive feedback improves performance, yet most leaders avoid giving it.
Why?
Because they don’t know how to do it without making it awkward.
Try this: Use the “Feedback Sandwich”:
- Start with a strength (“I love how detailed your reports are.”)
- Offer constructive feedback (“Next time, let’s add a summary for clarity.”)
- End with encouragement (“I know you’ll nail it!”)
Resource: Radical Candor by Kim Scott.
6. Delegation That Empowers
Micromanaging crushes morale. One study found that 85% of employees feel disengaged when they don’t have autonomy.
Try this: Instead of just handing off tasks, use the “Why-What-How” framework:
- Why: “This project is important because…”
- What: “The goal is to…”
- How: “You have full ownership, and I’m here if you need support.”
Resource: The One Minute Manager by Ken Blanchard & Spencer Johnson.
7. Leading with Empathy
Empathy isn’t about being “soft.” It’s about understanding what drives your team.
A study by Businessolver found that 91% of employees believe empathy is essential to a strong workplace culture.
Try this: Instead of asking, “How’s work going?” ask, “What’s one thing I can do to support you?”
Resource: Dare to Lead by Brené Brown.
Final Thoughts
Soft Skills = Leadership Superpowers
Here’s the truth:
People don’t follow titles. They follow leaders who understand them.
If you want to lead a high-performing team, these seven soft skills will separate you from the pack.
So, which one will you focus on first? Hit reply and let me know!
Whenever you are ready, there are 2 ways I can help:
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